Just to be clear, do not try to derive happiness and positive energy from your relationships (well, at least not romantic relationships). Doing that is a quick fix but will not work in the long run, and will make you dependent.
But you will find that relationships will be much better when you are a positive person.
It’s something I’ve been working on myself for the last few years.
As much as it makes me sound like a hippie, I’m kind of at a point now where negative people turn me off. Like I don’t even want to associate with them because they’re just bad energy. Even a super hot guy, if he’s just one of those negative people, it’s like… you’re bad vibes, get away.
And it’s not even a conscious choice, it’s like I actually don’t even want to be around those kinds of people.
Just to be clear, I’m a bit of a cynic. Cynicism isn’t the same as negativity. When I say negativity, I mean just like bad people, people who are in bad moods all the time and spread their bad moods to others. People who after you interact with them, you’re in a worse mood than you were before. It’s just like ugh, I don’t even want to deal with that person right now.
It’s actually kind of hard to explain and I don’t think I’m doing a very good job. Hopefully you know what I mean.
Cynicism can actually bring good feelings if you frame it as a joke. That’s not what I mean.