Monthly Archives: January 2013
I can’t believe how warm it has been recently. Seriously, what is going on? Last week it was 8 degree outside. Single digits. Freezing. And then two days ago it was 56. Fifty six! And then today it’s 18 and snowing. What is going on?
A few days ago it was awesome I went for a run outside and it seems everyone else was doing the same because I ran into like 3 of my neighbors. It felt weird to be wearing shorts in January, but it was certainly warm enough! Sometimes in the winter I’ll either go to the gym and run on an elliptical, or if it’s not too windy I’ll bundle up and still go for a run outside. I don’t necessarily mind the cold because I can always wear layers and a scarf and that type of thing; what bothers me is the wind, especially when you’re running into it.
So anyway, 56 degrees in January is nuts, although it did make me feel like summer was almost here and kind of served as reminder of how much I want to get into shape this summer. In addition to running (which I’ve been very good about keeping up with so far), I’m considering changing my diet around a bit and maybe even using some supplements. I’ve been reading about the paleo diet which basically says you’re supposed to eat like how a caveman would’ve eaten. Lots of meat and veggies and not many processed foods, wheats, or that type of thing. I mean, I think it does kind of make sense, at least as far as avoiding processed foods. But I do like some of the things you’re not supposed to eat, though, like grains. We’ll see. I’ve also thought about trying green coffee bean extract, not as like a crazy weight loss drug, but just for a little extra help in the short term getting myself ready for the summer. It’s made from coffee beans while they’re still green (before they’re roasted). I just always assumed they were dark since that’s how you always see them in the store.
So that’s what’s new with me. I’m pretty excited for summer to get here so I can put all my winter coats in storage and bust out my flip flops. Maybe I’ll even buy a convertible. Just kidding. I actually don’t like riding in convertibles because all the wind messes up my hair.
I don’t have many regrets in my life but what happened last weekend to me would definitely be one of them. I’m a little embarrassed to even mention it here. I was out with some friends and on my way home I got pulled over and was charged with a DUI. I never in my life have been in trouble with the law before which makes this whole thing even worse. What also makes it worse was I almost didn’t go out to begin with. I got home from work that day and was all intent on just taking it easy at home by myself. I had bought a new PlayStation 3 game on Amazon and it came in the mail that day and I was going to play that and just chill. Around 8:00 my phone rang and it was my friend Tyler telling me I had to come out with him and some other people. I hesitated and thought about it and a large part of me wanted to say no but for some reason I said yes and the rest as they say is history.
There aren’t many good things about this but I at least was let go the same night because I was so cooperative and not hostile like I’m sure a lot of drunk drivers are. I had to pay for a cab and the next day had to pay to get my car out of an impound lot which wasn’t cheap. I know this whole thing is going to cost me a lot but I hope by retaining a good DUI attorney in Sarasota I can get some leniency by the judge. I have asked a few people that I know have been in my situation and they all told me that the first one while bad isn’t too bad. They all also told me never to get a second one as then I’m probably looking at some jail time and losing my license for years on end.
Anyways that is pretty much what I’m dealing with in my life at the moment. I wish I could have written about something much happier but that isn’t the case. I plan on updating this as much as I can so check back and I will let you know how things turned out. My first court date isn’t until the middle of next month so I have a lot of worrying to do before it gets here.
As you know I am interested in making some positive changes in my life, including not only inner changes (such as mindset), but also outer changes (such as productivity).
I’ve seen some discussion relating to whether these changes should start from the inside and manifest outward, or start from external changes and be brought inward. The latter kind of sounds like “faking it til you make it.” The thinking is that if you are doing good things in your life, if you are taking the proper steps for success, your life will improve and as a result, your happiness and outlook on life will improve.
But then I kind of think about all those rich people who aren’t happy. They have success. They have money. But they aren’t happy. Why not? Why doesn’t it come from the outside in for them?
Then I think about going from the inside out. If you are feeling good you are probably going to approach situations from a different viewpoint and make choices that will allow you to continue to experience positivity.
Let me give you some examples from my life.
In the past I never really used to pay that much attention to my finances. I mean, I had a general idea of how much money was in my bank account, but I would pretty much buy whatever I wanted, I didn’t set aside money specifically for saving, and I wasn’t really aware of how much little purchases can add up (like getting coffee every morning, for example). My mindset was kind of “whatever.” I read a book that kind of changed my thinking about it, though, and sort of made me start thinking about it all in a different way. I thought to myself, I’m trying to be more positive and bring good things into my life, and wouldn’t my finances fall into that category? Would having better control and understanding of my money in turn lead to more positivity in other areas of my life?
Absolutely it would.
So I began to practice more conservative spending habits, and made sure to reinforce them in my mind so I saw them as a good thing, a positive direction, rather than viewing them as “missing out.” When I don’t buy coffee in the morning, I don’t think “this sucks, I’m not getting my coffee.” That’s the wrong mindset and it would bring me down. Instead, I think something more along the lines of “this coffee is overpriced, and I can make my own for much cheaper which means I can save money.” Of course, saying that and actually believing it are two different things, but it’s to the point now where I really don’t want to spend money on frivolous stuff like that. I met with an accountant to make sure I’m not missing anything when it comes to my property taxes, and I keep a spreadsheet of all my expenses so nothing gets too out of control without me realizing it.
So it’s kind of a combination of inner and outer changes reinforcing each other.